Meet Kim Alexander
MEET THE MUSES: Kim Alexander interviewed by Tracy Treu ~ mothers, football wives, social change activists
Tracy and I know each other because our husbands were teammates with the Oakland Raiders.
How long have you known each other?
About 15-16 years.
What do you have in common?
We’re football wives (a sorority within itself, a bit), mothers, strong opinions, feisty, witty.
What do you admire in each other?
I love that Tracy is filterless… She’s a mom and a wife and believes in having fun and teaching her children life lessons without being uptight. She lives and that’s admirable to me.
What two words would describe your friendship?
Tell us about yourself, Kim:
What makes you leap out of bed?
Knowing I need to get a workout in before doing anything… It centers me, it’s my peace before tackling the day.
What did you dream about when you were 8?
Being a veterinarian.
What do you dream about now?
Making a difference in people’s lives before I leave this planet.
What matters most to you?
My sons matter more than anything/anybody.
What do you tell young people to do?
Never stop learning. Live in the moment.
What is your most marked characteristic?
My ability to remain calm when most people would panic and fall apart.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Raising my 2 sons.
What do you want to be remembered for?
Saying something to someone that inspires them to become a better person for themselves or others.
What is your motto?
Life is short, live.
Tell us about your work:
What job | project | goal are you working on now?
I have a company called KimCONNECTS where I help small businesses with branding, marketing, and social media strategies. I also co-host a sports talk radio show and I’m a cancer advocate. I’m excited to be chairing the 2016 Man & Woman of the Year campaign for the North Texas Leukemia & Lymphoma Society and proud to be a part of the family advisory board for the Harvard Football Players Health Study. I absolutely love everything I’m doing.
I had to regroup after losing my husband to cancer, figure out how I wanted to move forward. It required a bit of reinvention because I’d been a wife, mom, and caregiver for so long. He was the head of our household and suddenly that changed. I knew whatever I did I wanted to love it, not just be doing something for the sake of it. Making a difference, in the process, was also important to me. My family’s experience led me to want to help others dealing with a cancer diagnosis, patients and caregivers. I fundraise, do speaking engagements, and raise awareness. A part of me will always wonder if had my husband’s cancer been caught sooner, would he still be alive. That spurs me pushing to make sure that former NFL players are proactive about their health care. So many are conditioned to ignore pain and discomfort that they miss signs. We’re losing too many young, my husband was only 39.
What should people know about your work?
I’m passionate about it because it’s I love it and it’s personal. If sharing our story helps others, then I’m happy.
How can we support you and your work?
Stay engaged, donate to the cause, spread the word to help with awareness. Check out KimConnects.com.
How do you balance work and play?
It’s easy for me because I know there’s a need for both! If there is something I really want to do, I make it happen. The world won’t fall apart if I put fun first. We’re only here once, I know that all too well now.
Share your inspiration with us:
When and where are you most inspired?
I’m most inspired when I’m in a room full of people who know more than me. I feel like a sponge. I want to soak up everything they know, makes me want to step my game up.
If you could inspire one change in yourself, what would it be?
To stop worrying about being perfect.
To inspire people to be more empathetic. Our world is so desensitized and cold now, it’s scary.
Where do you look for inspiration in your daily life?
Inspiration is really everywhere if you pay attention and tune out the background noise.
Who inspires you?
Anyone that has faced a challenge and didn’t let it stop them. People who don’t rely on excuses. People who make things happen. Game changers.
Want to share a quote or a poem or a song lyric that inspires you?
“I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down and I tumbled but I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength
Survived my darkest hour, my faith kept me alive
I picked myself back up, hold my head up high
I was not built to break
I didn’t know my own strength”
Now, let’s dive deep:
What is holding you back from living the life you want?
Nothing is holding me back really. I’m just waiting on my youngest to graduate from high school. Things will change when I become an empty nester.
What is your greatest fear?
Not completing everything on my bucket list, like learning how to be a DJ and becoming a photographer, just to name a few.
What has been your greatest life lesson?
Losing my husband unexpectedly. It changed my whole outlook on life. For longest time I tried to say it didn’t change me, but it did. It still is.
What breaks your heart for others?
To see them take people and opportunities for granted.
How do you break your own heart?
If you had the world stage for one moment, what would your message be? Don’t take time for granted. Make a difference while you’re here.
What two words best describe you as a mother?
A cross between super firm and Disney World.
What do you love best about motherhood?
Watching them grow into being their identities. As parents, all we can do is try to mold them, hope and pray.
What do you find most challenging about motherhood?
Having to let go and give them freedom, I always want to protect them.
As a mother, what is your greatest fear?
My children not living up to their potential.
What has been your greatest lesson from motherhood?
Selflessness, their needs come first. If they’re happy, I’m happy.
What two words best describe your mother?
Impactful & smart.
Finish this sentence: What I remember most about my mother is…she was fun.
What story did you inherit from your mother?
I always wanted to expose my children to new experiences like she did me. Instill a love of reading, gaining knowledge.
What story do you hope to pass down to your children?
That they saw their mom at her lowest point, but as a family we came together and didn’t let a tragedy hold us back from doing the things we needed and wanted to do.
Tell us about your mindfulness practice:
Who are your teachers?
Life was my teacher.
Why is mindfulness important to you?
Mindfulness is important because I love depth. I want to know what’s beyond the surface, cause and effect. We celebrate a lot of superficiality these days, I try to limit that.
How does being mindful affect your daily living?
I love to read and research, try to understand what’s beyond what’s just put in front of me.
What are the biggest challenges to mindful living?
Trying to not get caught up in unimportant things. It’s best to surround yourself with positive to stay positive.
Can you share some of your mindfulness tips with us?
Be aware of what you read, listen to and see… Negative things can taint your spirit. I try to disconnect from it as much as possible.
Thank you both for the inspiration. xo, muse
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